REMEMBER: BIRTH IS PART OF YOUR PERSONAL LOVE STORY
You know how to love her and your intuition of caring for her will show you the way.
The day of your birth is filled with hope and fear and this special time is the beginning of greeting life and its unexpected turns with acceptance and strength.
HOW DO DOULAS AND DADS COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER?
Doulas never replace Dads or Partners. Doulas help strengthen a Dad or partner’s role and confidence,
through education and encouragement. The Dad or Partner can participate in any way comfortable to them. Through the educational sessions, Dads learn practical ways of supporting the laboring and birthing Mom.
Doulas can help guide this process and the experience will enrich the attachment and bonding between
couples in very special ways. Also Doulas watch out for Dads making sure they eat properly, do not get overly fatigued and have opportunity for rest.Doulas work as a team with the birthing couple and work with the Dad and partner also helps communication with staff ensuring the couple’s goals are respected and valued.
Many Dads have expressed the value of having a Doula. Here are a couple of comments as to the importance
of doula support through labor and delivery.
Some comments from Dads
Our experience with Selma Brothman as our doula was, in two words, fantastic and essential. Before the birth of our son Elliot we did a lot of our own research, took a mindful childbirth class, met with Selma a few times, formed our own birth plan, and generally did all we could to ready ourselves for the experience of labor and delivery. We were aware that once things got moving we'd have to go with what Lindsay's body was telling us she needed and we knew it would be an immense challenge physically and emotionally. However, it was having Selma with us from the beginning to the end of labor and delivery that got us through. The calm presence and breadth experience she tapped into, her clear communication and supportiveness directly to Lindsay and especially to me throughout all stages, and her constant reassurance that all was well and moving along made the natural birth we wanted possible. Without her I don't know how we could have possibly brought our son into the world in the way we so desired he be born - thank you thank you thank you Selma - you sheaparded our baby into existence with such care and expertise and we are so grateful. J.K
Selma came highly recommended and she surpassed our expectations.
The decision to involve an experienced doula was based on two key factors:
1. This was our first birth and we had no clue what to expect
2. There was the possibility of medical complications and we wanted someone having eyes on us at all times (even the nurses come and go these days). Selma demonstrated a degree of commitment, genuine concern, experience and compassion that simply blew our minds. My wife certainly rivaled one of the longest labors
-- 55 hours of contractions!! -- and Selma was there every single step of the way.
An added benefit, which we could appreciate only in retrospect, is Selma's genuine warmth and compassion.
She was like a village elder guiding us through the miraculous, but unknown, process of birth
one step at a time. Additionally, we were also surprised how Selma provided emotional support not only
to the mother but to the father as well. We recommend Selma without hesitation and look forward to sharing her name with others at every opportunity. D.M.